Spiritualist Funeral Services

There are usually two reasons why people read information like this; the first is because they are thinking about how they would like their own funeral to be conducted and the second is because they need to prepare the funeral arrangements for someone else. We will deal with both of these reasons in turn.

Your Personal Wishes

Many next of kin are relieved when a person has made their own funeral wishes known. The Spiritualists' National Union provide a special form on which you may record your personal wishes. This form should be left in a known place - possibly with personal papers and/or your will.

The sort of information you may wish to consider for recording on your form is, do you want : -

Cremation or burial and where do you want this to be?
A ceremony in a Church, Chapel of Rest or Crematorium?
Music, Hymns, a Reading or Poems? If so, then what would you like? Note that many places now have the facility to play favourite recorded music.
Flowers from the family only, from everyone, or donations to a charity?
If a cremation, where would you like the ashes to be scattered?
Someone chosen by you to take the service or to take part in it.

This listing of details ensure that your final wishes are respected. Relatives are often relieved when they can follow your final wishes, it is a time of sadness, so allowing your relatives and loved ones to organise, and hold a Funeral Service based on your values and wishes is always appreciated. Your loved can then concentrate on the service, recognising your individuality and your importance to family, friends and loved ones.

Arranging a Funeral for Someone Else

Has the person left a Will and/or any wishes either in the Will or in writing elsewhere? If so, then you should respect those wishes, although the executor or next of kin has the final say. The family may already have paid for a plot in a cemetery or churchyard. If not then one will have to be bought if the deceased is to be buried.

You need to remember that for a cremation the length of time allowed for the ceremony is usually limited to just thirty minutes, and that includes the time takes for the people to enter and exit. You ca book extra time if required.

On registering a death, the registrar will provide a helpful booklet on what to do. Most people use a Funeral Director, although you can arrange a "do-it-yourself funeral" instead. Choose a Funeral Director who agrees to provide you with a full detailed cost in advance.

Content of the Ceremony

The Ceremony is an occasion to portray the individual personality of the deceased as well as recalling the experiences they encounter during their life's journey upon Earth.

The Spiritualist Service emphasises the continuation of life in another sphere of existence beyond the Earthly realm, and that the death of the physical body is merely the shedding of a mortal garment that has served its purpose.

Music and/or readings create special memories and feelings for most people, as does a brief period of silence when the deceased can be personally remembered by all present in their own way.

Personalised Spiritual Services

For those who would wish a non traditional religious service, most Spiritualist Ministers and Officiants will fit in with the wishes of the deceased and our Services do not include what many see as orthodox religious language.

All services are conducted in a Spiritual manner with both dignity and respect. Types of Ceremonies offered include, Burial, Cremation, Scattering of Ashes & Memorial Services.

Scattering or Burial of Ashes

A simple and personalised service can be conducted for the scattering or burial of ashes in a situation appropriate to the wishes of the deceased or the family. This could include a further brief tribute to the deceased, a reading, prayers, etc., and may be conducted at a special place chosen by the deceased. Permission must always be sought prior to the scattering of ashes in a public place or cemetery. The funeral Director may be able to organise this for you.

Memorial Services

Most people simply have a ceremony on the day of the funeral but sometimes a memorial service may also be appropriate. Examples might be when a family is widely scattered and some are unable to get to a funeral at short notice, or when a well known person has died and many people wish to pay tribute to that person. A memorial service can be arranged several days or weeks, or even a year after the actual death, and it gives family, friends and colleagues the opportunity to pay tribute in person when they may be too emotional to do so at the time of the funeral.

Further information

If you wish to contact one of our Ministers or Officiants, they would be prepared to see you with no commitment on either side so that you can discuss your wishes.

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